Tuesday, 19. November 2013 15:02
Have you ever thought about who makes up your “we”? Is it your family, your partner, your political party, or your work associates? Or maybe it’s the human race, or all the creatures of the earth? Perhaps your answer changes depending on the issue at stake.
The way you navigate between the needs of I, you and we in your life can be tricky. How do you meet your needs and the needs of others when they compete? For example, if your “I “ almost always comes second to your service to others in your life, how does that feel for you? Alternatively, how does it feel if you almost always seek to meet your own needs before considering the needs of others?
Say these definitions to yourself:
Loving only you is self-less;
Loving only me is selfish and
Loving me and you is self–full.
Each of us is responsible for meeting our own needs; and
Your needs and my needs matter equally, not more or less.
How was that for you?
I find it empowering to know that our needs matter equally and that I can trust you to take care of yourself. It means I can care about others (you and we) in my life without abandoning me. It enhances my respect for both of us.
I can always choose to consider our needs together in my solution set. That’s not an obligation, it’s a choice, and that encourages me to discover creative solutions that solve problems in ways that benefit more of us.
In this context, one of my favorite questions is this:
“What choices bring more love and abundance to me, to you and to us?”
Finding your way to meet the needs of I, with you and we, may fill a lifetime. Hopefully, each of us seeks a balance that not only nurtures us, but also allows us to contribute to our community and to our world in meaningful ways. Because each of us matters – and how we live this consciousness makes all the difference.