This particular quote from de Botton summed up the heart of the matter:
“So what I want to argue for is not that we should give up on our ideas of success, but we should make sure that they are our own. We should focus in on our ideas and make sure that we own them, that we are truly the authors of our own ambitions because it’s bad enough not getting what you want; but it’s even worse to have an idea of what it is you want, and find out at the end of the journey that it isn’t, in fact, what you wanted all along. So by all means, success – yes. But let’s accept the strangeness of some of our ideas. Let’s probe away at our notions of success. Let’s make sure our ideas of success are truly our own.”
I am hoping that you are making your life and your success your own. You can listen to the original interview with Alain de Botton on NPR and read more about my personal journey toward “success” at The Project U. blog.