Disappointment and Guilt

Author Seth Godin  wrote a blog post called, “You will be disappointed.” In it, he talks about the fact that at some point, something or someone won’t meet your expectations. More importantly, his next point really spoke to me:

“You will disappoint someone. That’s part of the deal of being in the world.”

So true! And for someone like me who hates to disappoint anyone, it’s hard to stomach. I hate the idea that even if I do the best I can, it will sometimes fall short of what others would like from me. But as I meditate on that thought, I realize that what other people think of me is none of my business. I can’t control their expectations, and unless I am out in the world making promises I know that I can’t keep (a no-no in my rule book) all I can do is the best that I can. I have nothing else to offer – except to feel guilty.

Then I found his quote by writer Peter McWilliams, “Guilt is anger directed at ourselves – at what we did or did not do. Resentment is anger directed at others – at what they did or did not do.”

I realized that being angry with myself for not doing something beyond my ability is wasteful. And gosh, who has time to waste?

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Date: Friday, 3. February 2012 12:54
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