Eviscerate Your Fear

Fear can be an incredibly helpful response when your life is in danger.  On the other hand, the fear that we create in our minds is usually not so helpful. Often it’s about something we think might hurt us:   “I’m afraid of getting fired, I’m afraid my boyfriend will cheat, I’m afraid of getting old”…on and on and on.  This brand of fear can stop you in your tracks and prevent you from enjoying your life.  Fear

I’m not saying it’s easy, but it is possible to handle fear – and handle it we must, or we risk getting stuck in our own mind-trap.  For me, getting more information and then taking positive action based on that information, is a great tool for eviscerating fear.

I start by getting really honest, curious, and specific about what it is that scares me.  That way, once I get a handle on what I truly fear, I can take action to increase my ability to manage the outcome. I find that positive action takes the fangs out of my fear and can actually make my life more fun! Informed, inspired action makes me feel that I’m taking charge of my destiny.  It makes me feel empowered.

For example, let’s say it’s the fear of getting old…

I ask myself (usually I write all this down) Why?  What is it that I am so afraid of? Answer:

As I age, I will become useless, less attractive, overlooked, and find it more difficult to do things I enjoy. 

Okay, what does useless mean?  That no one will hire me?  That no one will want to date me?  Then, what steps can I take to lessen the possibility of those outcomes?   I can’t control everything, but I can take positive action on things that are within my control. So instead of worrying and feeling anxious, I ask myself, what can I do to make a difference – and what sounds do-able, even fun?  Here are a few possibilities that came to mind:

  • Take a class and learn a new skill that will keep my job skills fresh.
  • Volunteer to help those less fortunate than myself to keep me feeling useful.
  • Employ a weekly exercise program (stretching and weightlifting) that will help me stay limber and strong.
  • Take a ballroom dance class (I like this one the best!) to meet  fun people and stay in shape.

 I believe that pursuing any one of these tactics would help me feel better and more in control of my fear of aging.   In fact, doing any of these things would leave me less time to worry, and could even bring new, positive people and experiences into my life!

Unfortunately, there are times that fear and anxiety are so overwhelming, you can’t even allow yourself to think about the thing you fear.  In those instances, you can call your therapist, your best friend or your life coach.  If that’s not an option, then you may want to give “EFT”, the Emotional Freedom Technique, a try. It’s a simple tapping technique you can do yourself – for free.

Even if it seems silly, you may want to try it.  According to Dr. Mercola’s EFT site, (an excellent resource)  it‘s a form of acupressure, based on using some of the same energy meridians used in traditional acupuncture. By tapping specific meridians on your head and chest with your fingertips while you voice a positive affirmation, you help clear the emotional block from your bio-energy system. This restores your mind and body’s balance, and gets you calmer.  The Mercola EFT site  offers  a pictorial  step-by-step approach through the process if you want to learn more.

There are also a variety of  YouTube videos that leads you through the process.  Here’s one that I found simple and straightforward to use.      However, there are a variety of  options and  applications, so if this one is not to your liking, you may want to view some others.    I also noticed that there is variation in the tapping points and the affirmations used, but the basics of the technique are fairly consistent.  

However you do it, I wish you the best in coping with your fear and anxiety. Seek help from a physician or therapist if  you can’t manage on your own.  It’s natural to feel fear, but please don’t let it stop you from living a joyful life.

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Date: Thursday, 11. November 2010 15:47
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