Tiger’s Apology: What’s the Point?

There has been much commentary and speculation about pro golfer Tiger Wood’s recent public apology.  Was it good? Was it sincere?  Was it necessary?

According to William Rhoden, writer for the New York Times, the nation’s obsession with Tiger Woods’ personal life and infidelity says more about our misguided priorities than it does about Woods.

I don’t disagree with Rhoden on that point, but in general, I believe most of the commentators are missing the point of the apology – or any apology.  To heal a wound, it must be done.

One of the most widely used and successful programs for overcoming addiction is the 12-step program.  The daddy of all twelve step programs, Alcoholics Anonymous, has two steps that require making amends.   Specifically:

Step 8: Make a list of all persons we had harmed and be willing to make amends to them all; and

Step 9: Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

I believe that Woods had to make a public apology for his own healing – and for ours.  Writer Rhoden points out that until last November, Woods’s entire public life was a media-driven illusion. We, the public, were betrayed by Woods. And any betrayal left unaddressed, festers.

Did he do it well? That is a fascinating topic for the water cooler and last week’s cocktail party, but in the end, I believe it is not the issue.  The fact is, he did it. We achieve serenity in our lives by seeking forgiveness from those we have harmed.  They may not forgive, but if we don’t ask, we cannot begin to forgive ourselves.  

Check out the transcript, if you missed it live http://www.nytimes.com/2010/02/20/sports/golf/20woodsstatement.html

Link to the Rhoden article: http://www.nytimes.com/2010/02/21/sports/golf/21rhoden.html

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Date: Sunday, 21. February 2010 14:43
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